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What Lies in the Shadows

Thank you for visiting What Lies in the Shadows. This site focuses on prevention and healing of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, plus ritual abuse and trafficking. Child abuse is not society’s problem or the government’s problem. It is your problem and my problem.

There is no way to put a price on how much abuse costs the child who is abused, but according to Child Help (, the cost to the American taxpayer in 2008 was 124 billion dollars. Did that get your attention? I hate to narrow it down to dollars and cents, but that seems to be the language Americans as a whole understand. Am I preaching to the choir? I probably am, because if you didn’t care about abused children, you would be surfing another website.

Thank you for caring. I hope we can partner together to make a difference. If you are a survivor, you can tell your story here. You are not alone. If you work with abused children or adults abused as children, we want to bless you. If you have found techniques that help a survivor, please pass them along and I will pass along things I have learned in my counselor’s chair. I don’t want this to be just another blog. I want it to be a blog that touches aching hearts.

Depression and Abuse Get Married

  Depression and abuse often go together like liver and onions. If you love liver and onions, then I apologize for the analogy, but to me it fits. I don’t like liver and onions. Neither do I like depression or abuse. How are they connected? 1. They both can run in families. Most psychologists believe […]


Trauma Triggers

Abuse is traumatic. People who have had traumatic experiences often have situations that trigger flashbacks or emotions that can’t be explained by present events. Have you ever been minding your business and not really thinking about anything in particular when bam, out of the blue you are struck by a strong uncomfortable feeling? I have. […]


07 Jul Posted by in danger, rape, teen | Comments

Danger: Teen Girls Gone Wild

Teen girls don’t realize they put themselves in danger by their drinking and wild dancing. They show little respect for their own bodies. I don’t know what they do in their home town, but the actions I saw recently caused me great concern. My adult daughter and I cruised together to three ports. Several groups […]


Anger, Fear, or Both?

Anger gets a bad rap these days. Yes, it can lead to many problems if it is not controlled, but the feeling itself is there to tell us something is wrong and needs to be fixed. Anger also has another job; it covers emotions we are afraid to face, like fear. Did you ever think you […]


This Could Happen to a Child You Love

  Shocked and saddened! I felt shocked and saddened last night as I talked to a police officer who works on the organized crime team in a large city. He said the city is a dangerous place to be. I asked where he sees the most trafficking. The trafficking stretches from the most affluent suburbs in the […]